Monday, December 24, 2012

After Porn Ends

Today I was in a very Christmassy mood, and I wanted to see something that would put me in a festive, holiday mood!

So naturally, I rented "After Porn Ends".

After watching, I had a few thoughts.

Of course, the women were more stigmatized by their porn careers than the men. Not one guy mentioned the word 'shame'. 

Some of the statements made by the women left me conflicted. For instance, I thought it was sad when Houston said her teenaged daughter refused to allow her to any school functions for fear that she might be recognized. Smart move there, kid. Houson might as well have "FORMER PORN STAR" tattooed across her forehead with her huge lips and boobs. On the other hand, I would think it's hard to have respect for a woman who had plastic surgery on her labia then ebayed the skin....makes me shudder just thinking about it. And what's not to be thrilled about when you realize your mom participated in the world's largest gang bang?! 620 men....and your mom. Imagine that Christmas letter!

I have more admiration for the women who said they did it for the sex and the money (like Seka) than the women like Tiffany Million who raved on about how she did it for her kid. So her kid could go to good schools, so her kid could have a nice life, you know, things that aren't available to children whose mothers are school teachers or lawyers or nurses. Tell it like it is. Those things ARE available to women who work 9-5 jobs, it's JUST HARDER WORK FOR LESS PAY.

I noticed a big difference between the women who were in it for the fame--they didn't fare nearly as well as the women who treated it like a business, like Seka. She said if the directors refused to give her the money she wanted, she walked. The chicks who give in seem to be the ones who end up wallowing in booze and drugs, no doubt angry for having second guessed themselves and for having sold themselves so cheaply.

I think the woman I had the least amount of respect for was Asia Carerra. She went on and on about how she made this massive amount of money for photo shoots and autograph sessions, and then when her husband died, she went online and asked her fans to donate money to her. She said they responded "in a big way". Wrong, wrong, MEGA WRONG on so many different levels. GET. A. JOB. Fans aren't there to be used.

Let's not even talk about Shelley Lubben, who talked like she was STILL way out in left field.

The documentary also touched on something that has always pissed me off: the women the guys are jacking off to are the very ones the guys think are disgusting for giving them something to jack off to.  I often think many women keep the depth of their sexual needs hidden because of two-faced thinking like this. It's on par with the old "she's fuck material, but not marriage material" mentality.

Richard Pacheco sounded like he was stuck in the old "woulda, coulda, shoulda" days, lamenting the fact that he had to give up all that sex because his wife was afraid of the AIDS outbreak. I found it interesting that in all his comments he never even mentioned BEING married until he spoke about why he left the industry.

Randy West seems to be spending his days on the golf circuit, and he did lament not having had the opportunity to have kids.

John Leslie seemed to be the most content with his life at the time the documentary was shot. He stated that he had his home and his wife and what more could he want. The movie ended with a shot of John standing in his yard with a  big smile on his face. Below him, a tagline stating that he had passed away at his home of a heart attack in 2010.

I think After Porn Ends is a documentary that should be required viewing for any woman who wants to do porn. Then again, when we're young, we all think things will be sooooo different for us.


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