My gf lost her sister in law last week to a domestic violence incident. Her husband murdered her and then committed suicide. I'm so grateful their three children were not in residence because I'm sure he would have murdered them, too. After all, he threatened many times to do just that.
What ticks me off is the article in the newspaper in which they talked about how he threatened to murder them all, then it's followed up with "...blah blah became distraught over the thought of losing his children when his wife moved to another state."
Threatening to murder your entire family is not based on fears of losing your children because you love them, it's based on control and manipulation, so it angers me when they try to make it seem like he was so worried about losing contact with the kids that he went berserk. He was full of hatred and rage. None of this had anything to do with love.
And leaving three young children alone in this world without either parent more than proves that.