I am so damn frustrated at what a greedy bitch my sister in law has turned out to be. She went through my M-I-L's house and took absolutely EVERYTHING decent she could take. When it came to dividing up furniture, my M-I-L didn't have a lot, but she had a new bed, new living room suit and new tv. My S-I-L took the living room suit and the bed, and left us the tv. Anything else I asked about like end tables and wall decorations, she'd say, "oh, those are mine. I loaned them to Mom."
I was FUMING, and here's why. When we first got married, my husband and I inherited about $6k in debt from HIS PARENTS. He agreed to help them update their house by taking out a loan to put on new siding and new windows, and buy them appliances they badly needed. (This was a few months before we met.) In return, they told him the house would be HIS ALONE when they died, because he was the one that always helped them when they needed it. He would have helped them anyway, but they lied to him time and time again about this to get what they wanted out of him.
His dad got pissed off at my husband over something stupid, as was so often the case, and being one of those controlling JERKS who tried to hold their kids hostage to their "inheritance", he threatened to take my husband out of the will. My husband told him to do whatever the hell he wanted. Instead of taking my husband out, he put my sister in law in. Then when he cooled down, he wanted to take her out but my M-I-L refused to sign. So I guess we have her to blame for this fucking mess.
My M-I-L hasn't been able to get upstairs for at least two or three years and yet when we went through the attic, there wasn't a cobweb to be found. Small cubby holes behind closets were all cleaned out nice and neat. Almost 60 years of marriage and I've never seen a house so empty in my life.
My F-I-L had an old coin collection--some coins from the 1800's--that he kept in a black suitcase. All four of the people in that family knew it and knew it was in the suitcase. Now there isn't a black suitcase to be found, and when my husband asked his sister her response was the same shit we've BEEN hearing, "I never saw it." When they were visiting with his mother yesterday, he asked right in front of his sister, "Mom, where's Dad's coin collection?" And she said, "In the attic in the black suitcase." Yet her sister knew nothing. She has a good job at the prison, pulls in at least $50 or 60k a year. It's just her and her husband at home now. They put in a new house about five years ago--despite the fact that they're both in their 60's--and yet she's grabbing everything in sight like she's po'.
When they decided to sell the house, my husband told my S-I-L that everything would be put in a CD with their name on it in "and" not "or"--because he doesn't trust her--and it would be used for their mother's care. She agreed, then turned right around and said, "Once we sell the house, I need $1k to pay my taxes. How about I take it out of Mom's money?" My husband was pissed and gave her an emphatic "That is NOT OUR MONEY."
What really infuriates me is that after all this, my S-I-L sat at the table the other day and said to my husband, "We'll share everything. You get a can of kidney beans and I'll get a can of kidney beans." I thought, "Yeah, but after you've stolen several cases for yourself first."
I told my husband yesterday that we are getting that new bed. We are NOT walking out of there with garbage while she takes everything. So when he told her that he felt she was getting way more than we were, she hesitated and said, "I don't want to fight over stuff." Easy to say when you have ALL the stuff. Long story short the bed is ours.
There's one thing my F-I-L always said about my S-I-L, "She can't be trusted." Too bad he left us pay the price for it.