Thursday, August 30, 2007

color me nauseated

I just found out my husband is going to lose his full time job, along with all of our medical benefits. He said it's sitting in the pit of his stomach like a huge knot.
How well I know that feeling.

He's in his 50's now and has diabetes, so the loss of medical benefits is going to hit us hard, as well as the added stress of him having to start all over again at his age. Even if he does get another full time job--which seem to be hard to come by these days--finding one that doesn't make you pay all your own benefits is going to be hard.

I keep telling myself that this could be the start of something really, really good for us--you know the whole "one door closes and another one opens" b.s.?--and maybe it's time he had a change, but....ugh. Reality bites and I'm scared.

13 comments:

Dustin said...

Damn, Goddess, Im sorry to hear that. My husband is on the verge of it currently as well, so things have been...stressful...to say the least.

Mushy said...

I'm scared for you too...it ain't going to be easy. I came close to losing my job around that age, but things worked out at the last minute. Thank you God!

Can you get benefits at your job?

Life can really suck at times. I'll remember you in my prayers.

*Goddess* said...

Thanks, Dustin, I'll keep a good thought for you, too. It's upsetting because my husband really loved his job and he's given it his all. For them to force him out like this blows.

*Goddess* said...

Thanks, Mushy. I wish things would work out for my husband, too. It's often been my dream to work and let him retire early because he's been working since he was 16, helping to support his mother and father. And no, I can't get benefits at my job. I wish. That's why it's my major concern right now.

And thanks for the prayers. We need all we can get;)

H2o said...

I'm so sorry to hear this...I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. This sucks...

Shrink Wrapped Scream said...

Oh shit. That's horrible. I'm so sorry honey. My hubby's only just holding on by his fingernails too -it's just a question of what comes first, the push, or the breakdown..

Write that friggin' book - NOW. No better time, eh? ((x))

You know how loved you are, right?

~Fathairybastard~ said...

I sure hope everything works out. Damn, that's a bummer. Well, I could come up with some lame shit to try to put a happy face on it, but that sucks. I just hope it all works out. I'll be thinkin' about ya.

Anonymous said...

Oh, no... That is not good. Not good at all. I feel for you. I really do.

Stacey

SnapShawt said...

Hey, I'm really sorry you're going through this. Keep your chin up and look for that window.

Lin said...

That simply bites the big one. That's gotta be giving him an ulcer just worrying about it.
We got a similar surprise bite when we moved down here - no health insurance now, just great. I sure hope the cavalry rides in to the rescue for you two in the nick of time!

SpongyBones said...

I hate hearing this man. This country sucks that we can't at least take care of our own medically. Hang in there!

*Goddess* said...

Thanks, everybody. I appreciate your thoughts. I wouldn't care so much if my OWN job status wasn't always so tenuous. What am I saying? I would, too...;)

BRUNO said...

I ain't got no easy solutions for you, either. And usually, COBRA benefits are WAY out of proportion to what can be afforded. I know---I've been there, too.

But I lucked-out, and had a Railroad Retirement Pension that I could receive some benefits from, even if it was roughly 50% of the benefits, due to "retirement", at 55. If it hadn't been for the wife working, that would've been all she wrote!

Employer-sponsored health benefits are, indeed, getting fewer with each passing year. You don't say how FAR into his 50's he is, but perhaps if he's at least 55, he could take early retirement, and still earn part-time wages, but unfortunately, that doesn't take care of medical expenses.

There should be several medical clinics in your area who handle patients on a "sliding-scale" by total income, especially for conditions like diabetes, etc. It might be worth the time to start taking care of the initial paperwork for such. I, like everyone else here, hope the best for you both, because like I said, I've been there, done that, too---a humbling experience, indeed. But once you get your own "little-groove" cut for finances and such the first year, it starts to hurt a little less each time thereafter...